Monday, January 25, 2016

Dondo-Yaki





These are typical decorations for New Year's, hanging on doorways on public buildings and houses. This one Bruce is looking at is the front of our apartment building. This is called a shime-nawa and is put at the entrance door to keep misfortune and unclean spirits away.

Dondo-Yaki is an event held after the New Year's festivities are over. Everyone gathers around a community or neighborhood bonfire where New Year's decorations and good luck charms and talismans from last year are burned, to thank them for the good luck they brought in the past year.

Dondo-Yaki took place in a community neighboring Fussa on January 16th. Elder Lunt was acquainted with the Fujii family, who are members of the Fussa Ward, and they invited all of us to join their neighborhood for the bonfire. So we met up with the elders and some Fujii family members and walked to the nearby elementary school, where the bonfire was already burning. A teepee of bamboo poles provides the framework for the fire, and then people pile on the shime-nawa and other things to burn.


I found this picture online, but this is what it may have looked like before the fire was started.


And here's what it looks like after.












Here's Bruce and the elders. On the sticks are Mochi, or pounded rice balls, which we wrapped in foil and roasted in the fire. Eating them is supposed to bring you good luck and protect you against illness. In fact, just being near the bonfire is all kinds of beneficial -- you will grow younger if you warm yourself by the fire, your handwriting will improve and you will grow wiser if you burn your first calligraphy writing of the year, you will stay healthy and won't catch a cold if you eat Mochi roasted in the fire, your crops will grow if you scatter ashes from the fire in your fields. So we're anticipating lots of good fortune in the coming year!




The fire department was ready, just in case....




When our Mochi was sufficiently roasted, we went to get a bowl of sweet red bean soup to eat with it.





Then we watched the entertainment.




I don't know what the dancing meant. The performers were school children with a few adults. The boy out in front and the children standing were wearing masks and doing elaborate hand motions, and the music was mostly drums.

We walked back to the Fujii home, where they had dinner prepared for us. Fujii Kyodai and Fujii Shimai (Brother and Sister, respectively) don't speak English, although I think they understand a great deal. Their daughter Aimi does - she served in the Utah Salt Lake City Mission, attended BYU-Hawaii, and married a man from Alaska. They have a 2 year old and are in Japan, staying with her parents while her husband studies acupuncture. Their son, Kasey (I'm sure that's not how its spelled, but that's how its pronounced) and his wife just graduated from BYU-Idaho (he served a mission in San Diego) and were in Japan for the holidays, heading back to the states where he's preparing to go to dental school. We had a delightful time in their home. They served Japanese curry and rice, with a pretty typical American salad, fresh fruit, and a brownie and ice cream for dessert!


They invited us to come back -- we'll have to take translators with us, but we know a few missionaries who I'm sure would be willing!

Here's what Elder Lunt shared on Facebook about the Dondo-Yaki experience:
Recently, we had the chance to go to the Japanese festival Dondoyaki. I enjoyed learning about how they burn their New Years decorations to receive luck for the year. They built large piles of these decorations and then lit them on fire. It created large bonfires, which we used to cooked mochi (pounded ride balls). We then ate the mochi in an anko (sweet red bean) soup. What I enjoyed most about it though was the time for reflection and another chance to think about what I want to do with this year. As I thought about all the things that had happened in only one year, I was amazed by all the wonderful people I met, places I had been, and things I had learned. However, as I watched them burn the decorations they had put up only weeks before, I realized that was all behind me now, and the next important thing to do now was to go forward and make even more great things happen. Yet what made me feel the most happiness, was that I was eating mochi and anko soup in Japan talking with people in Japanese as a missionary. It reminded me of the words of President Thomas S. Monson, "Learn from the past, prepare for the future, and live in the present" (April 2003 General Conference). I hope we can all take a chance and learn from our past, aim where we want to go, and start to live, be happy, and start moving to where we are aiming today.

Relief Society Lesson

I was asked to speak at a Relief Society weekday meeting the first week of January. The theme was "A Twelve Week Walk with Christ" and included a handout the Relief Society presidency had put together with stories, poems, scriptures, etc., for each month of the new year, to help guide our thoughts and hearts to Jesus Christ and to keep his Spirit with us not just at Christmas time but all year long. I'm including my talk below, not necessarily for anyone else to read, but because I want to save it for me (you know when you prepare talks, lessons, etc., you're the one who really learns, benefits, and is blessed by it).

We have so many opportunities and resources to study the life of the Savior, it can actually be overwhelming. Since being asked to speak tonight, I’ve been looking at all kinds of outlines and options:

First and foremost, we have the Scriptures, themselves, available to us in print or on any number of devices we can access, highlight, cross-reference, etc. The Topical Guide, with 19 pages of references to Jesus Christ.

Lds.org, with all its lesson manuals, books, articles, essays, etc.

The internet, where we can sign-up for daily emails or social media posts with scriptures, inspirational quotes, reading assignments, etc.

Countless other books, conference talks, and Church magazine articles, Pinterest, sugardoodle, the idea door, I’m not even current on this, whatever else is on the Internet now – It is pretty mind-boggling all the resources that are available to us, and it’s out there for anybody and everybody to use. And yet what we do with all of this is very personal.

This 12 Month Walk with Christ that Sister Cope put together is a wonderful and valuable resource that will serve us well if we use it. The person that it has really served well so far is Sister Cope. I’m sure she has learned so much and been blessed and inspired as she has read and considered and pondered these things. She has felt closer to the Savior and come to love him more and feel his love for her to a greater degree. She also has increased in love for all of you, because she put this together as a service to you, and as she studied and reviewed the scriptures, stories, articles, and poems, she’s been asking herself, is this what the Relief Society sisters in the Yokota Ward need, will this bless them, will this help them to love Jesus Christ more and serve him better and feel his love for them. Now, she maybe wouldn’t have done all this if it hadn’t been for her calling and her responsibility to prepare something for this meeting. But she did do it and has been blessed and her love for and faith in Jesus Christ have deepened and increased.

I remember years ago having a conversation with my sister about chore charts. We both had young children at the time and we were discussing this or that or the other cute and clever idea for helping organize our kids into willing, happy, and effective little helpers in the home. There were lots of ideas floating around and a few books – and this was way before the internet or Pinterest, or we’d probably still be having that conversation! But what we finally concluded was that all of these ideas work – they all work – all the gimmicks and reward systems and organization charts and positive reinforcement plans. They all work – if we do. The same could be said for weight loss plans or home management systems or any number of self-improvement programs – there’s a lot of them out there and they all work if we do, if we put in the work.

Some of you may be familiar with Elder Bruce R. McConkie, a member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles from the early 1970s until his death in 1985. He was known in the Church as a great gospel scholar. He wrote the six volume Messiah series (The Promised Messiah, The Mortal Messiah, The Millenniel Messiah), he wrote a three volume Doctrinal Commentary on the New Testament, he wrote the chapter headings in the Book of Mormon and other scriptures, and he contributed a lot to the Bible Dictionary.  His daughter once asked him how he learned the gospel. When he was a young man, he said, about eighteen or nineteen, he went through the Book of Mormon verse by verse, studying and cross-referencing, and rewriting each verse in his own words. He covered the entire Book of Mormon in this way and had a stack of papers over a foot high when he was through. “I asked him what he did with those papers, and he said he threw them away—it wasn’t the stack of papers or what he wrote that was important, but the discipline and understanding it gave him. This is the way he taught himself.” Now, if you were to have access to Elder McConkie’s stack of papers and read through them all, would you have the same understanding that he gained? Not without doing the work.

The Bible dictionary says that prayer is a form of work. This may well have been written by Elder McConkie, and it says this: “Blessings require some work or effort on our part before we can obtain them. Prayer is a form a work and is an appointed means for obtaining the highest of all blessings.”

Scripture study, gospel study, like prayer, is a form of work. I believe that being spiritually sensitive is an art, and like any art or skill, we get better at it as we practice.  And as we practice, as we do the work, our efforts are blessed and we are enhanced and magnified, because the Lord can do so much more with us than we can ever do alone.  He is trying to do great things with us right now, as we have all these resources and opportunities to learn of Him and follow him more faithfully.

I want to share with you a very moving and sobering true story that will hopefully help us see how very blessed we are to have what we have.

This story is told by James E. Ray, an American prisoner in Vietnam in 1966. He had been shot down while he was flying a mission in May 1966 and captured, interrogated, and tortured repeatedly. He was imprisoned alone in a tiny cell with only a damp pallet for a bed. He would not be released for five long, terrible years, years of inadequate food, physical suffering, inadequate clothing, no contact with the outside world. Where would you turn for strength?

One particular day, when he was wishing he’d gone down with the plane, he heard a whisper. He writes:
            I heard it again. An unmistakable, “Hey, buddy?”
            I scrambled flat on the floor and peered through the crack under the door. I could see I was in one of many cells facing a narrow, walled courtyard. The whisper had come from the next cell. I whispered back. . . . . We waited as the guard passed and then began to converse.
            Soon all the prisoners on that yard were whispering. We started by learning about one another, where we were from, our families. One day I asked Bob what church he went to.
            “Catholic,” he said. “And you?”
            “Baptist.”
            Bob was quiet for a moment, as if my mention of church evoked deep memories. Then he asked, “Do you know any Bible verses?”
            “Well, I know the Lord’s Prayer,” I answered.
            “Everyone knows that.”
            “How about the Twenty-third Psalm?”
            . . . I began whispering it. He repeated each line after me. A little later he whispered back the entire psalm.
            Other prisoners joined in, sharing verses they knew . . .
            As the number of prisoners grew, two of us shared a cell. My first cellmate was Larry Chelsey, a Mormon from Idaho. Though we had a few differences of belief, our common denominators were the Bible and Jesus Christ, and we were able to share and write down a great deal of scripture. It became vital to our daily existence. Often racked with dysentery, weakened by the diet of rice, thin cabbage, and pumpkin soup, our physical lives had shrunk within the prison walls. We spent 20 hours a day locked in our cells. And those Bible verses became rays of light, constant assurances of God’s love and care.
            We made ink from brick dust and water or precious drops of medicine. We wrote verses on bits of toilet paper and slipped them to others, dropping them behind a loose brick at the toilets.
            It was dangerous to do that . . . A man unlucky enough to be caught passing a note would be forced to stand with his arms up against a wall for several days, without sleep.
            . . . . . One night I lay with my ear pressed against the rough wooden wall of my cell to hear thump . . .  thumpety thump as somewhere, cells away, a fellow POW tapped out in Morse code: “I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help.” (Psalm 121:1)
            He . . . . passed on the seven other verses in that psalm, which I scratched on the concrete floor with a piece of broken tile. “My help cometh from the Lord,” the psalm assured us, and with that assurance came his presence, soothing us, telling us not to fear.
            By 1968, more of us were squeezed together and for two years four of us lived in an eight-by-eight foot cell. . . . .  Only by following Christ’s teachings about constant forgiveness, patience, and understanding were we able to get along together.
            Two and a half years went by before I could write Dad and Mother. A year later I was allowed to receive my first letter. In the meantime we subsisted on letters written nearly 2000 years before.

By the early 1970s, most of these American POWs were moved to Hanoi, where some 50 of them lived, ate, and slept in one large room. They were surprised to find how many of them knew scriptures, learned from the verses passed along in whispers, on toilet paper, and through wall thumpings. They immediately made plans to have their own Christmas worship service, which they did, with scripture readings and Christmas carols. The guards would knock on the door and order them not to sing, but the prisoners persisted and the guards finally gave up. Later that night, the commander actually brought them a Bible (the prisoners had been asking for one for months) and allowed them to keep it for one hour.
After that, the guards allowed one prisoner out of his cell to go and copy from the Bible for one hour each week. Then the next week they had to return the previous week’s copy work. Mr. Ray said the guards “seemed afraid for us to keep the scriptures, as if they sensed the spiritual help kept us from breaking.”

            From that we learned a most important lesson: Bible verses on paper aren’t one iota as useful as scriptures burned into your mind, where you can draw on them for guidance and comfort.
            After five weeks we didn’t see the Bible again. But that had been enough time for us to memorize collectively the Sermon on the Mount, Romans 12, First Corinthians 13, and many of the psalms. Now we had our own “living Bible” walking around the room. By this time we had Sunday worship services and Sunday School classes . . . . .
            Two years passed this way . . . . years of continuing degradation, sickness, hunger, and never knowing whether we would see home again. But instead of going mad or becoming animal-like, we continued to grow as a community, sustaining one another in compassion and understanding.
            For as one of the verses I heard thumped out on the wall one night said: “Man doth not live by bread only, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of the Lord.” (Deut. 8:3)

Two things that I wanted to share with you tonight, and that was one – how incredibly blessed we are to have the scriptures that we have, and all of these aids that help us study them more effectively, how much we need to treasure them, study and feast upon these words. We should be the best educated, most insightful, most articulate generation the Church has ever seen – or maybe you should be, maybe I’m off the hook on that one, I don’t know….

Secondly, just a testimony of the love of the Savior and an injunction and a plea that we will learn of him, study his life and his teachings, and follow his example. And I want to share this video that I hope will speak to you as it did me.

Video: The Wise Men Seek Jesus

As I watch this, I love the idea that the gifts the wise men brought, which I used to think wouldn’t have been of much use to Mary and Joseph, may very well have provided this very poor little family with the means to leave Bethlehem and travel to Egypt. If that was the case, then the wise men quite literally saved Jesus’s life from Herod’s soldiers. We do know that they at least delayed Herod’s terrible decision as they didn’t go back to tell him where the baby was, and instead “departed into their own country another way”, giving Mary and Joseph time to get their baby safely to Egypt.

I love the thought, at Christmas time and always, that wise men still seek him. And wise women, too, of course, although it loses a little with that adjustment – but we know it really means that anyone and everyone who is wise seeks Jesus, the Savior, the Atoning One, the Son of God. The wise men here are sometimes traveling through beautiful landscapes, sometimes through bleak desserts. Sometimes the air around them is calm, sometimes they experience wind and weather. Sometimes there’s beautiful background music and sometimes there’s silence – and I don’t mean to be facetious as I make that point, thinking about the soundtracks of our lives. We seek Jesus through all of these experiences.

There are as many ways to seek Jesus as there are people, but there’s at least one thing we will all have in common: it will take a piece of our time. I like that the wise men depicted in this video don’t seem to be in a hurry. They are just moving forward, taking the time that it takes. Now, we are busy, we are involved in a lot of good and important things. But this seeking, this searching, which will include prayer and pondering, just needs to be given the time that it takes. The Lord does not apologize for asking this of us, for, in fact, commanding us to read and study and learn of his life and teachings. We each need to decide for ourselves when and how and what approach and for how long each day or week or month – and that changes as we grow and change and our circumstances change, it’s always a work in progress.  

Then in addition to setting aside the time for formal study, we can invite the Savior into every aspect of our lives, all the time, the hassled and harried times, the chaos, the great and glorious and the mundane.

We lived for a number of years in Olympia, Washington, where it rains pretty much nine months out of the year. This was where I first heard of light deprivation. You know that some people who live above a certain latitude and experience long winter nights and gray winter days can become depressed and even suicidal, because something in their bodies requires whole-spectrum light for a certain number of hours a day. Our spiritual requirement for light is as real and as deep as our physical need for light, maybe even more so. Jesus is the light of the world. We know that this world is a dark place sometimes, but we don’t need to walk in that darkness, because we have access to a light that dispels it. We live in an imperfect world with built-in adversities. But it’s the world that was created for us, and we love it. Our Father in Heaven’s plan calls us to this world, this is where we are schooled, where we work out our salvation.  The temple is the ultimate retreat from the world, but the celestial room is a place to reach and linger only for a few moments. It’s not a place where we can take up residence. We’re invited and counseled to come to the temple often, but nobody has ever said that we should try to stay there.

So the Savior doesn’t ask us to abandon the world; he invites us to come unto him so that he can heal us from worldly cares and frailties and make us whole. And I don’t think he can do that unless we are open with him about our brokenness, about the parts of us that need healing. So when the Savior comes to our house, let’s not just show him to the perfectly clean, beautifully decorated guest room and then close the door and expect him to stay there where things are nice.  Invite him instead into the kitchen where you’re making dinner and serving it on paper plates, or take him to work, especially when you’re running late, or to run errands or drive kids around. Let him help in the middle of the night when you’re up with a sick child, or with your own pain. He knows a lot about all of those things and much, much more.

He’s not waiting for us to be perfect. Perfect people don’t need a Savior. He came to save us in our imperfections. He’s not embarrassed by us, or angry, or shocked. He wants us in our brokenness because he knows how to heal us.

So can we open our minds to Jesus Christ by studying and feasting upon his life and teachings? And can we open our hearts to him by letting him into ours, such as they are? We covenanted at baptism to take his name, and to witness of him at all times, and in all things, and in all places. As we learn of his teachings and experience his love, we can become more like him. President Russell M. Nelson said, “Your most sincere sign of adoration of Jesus is your emulation of Him.”

I referred earlier to Elder Bruce R. McConkie and his gospel scholarship. Elder McConkie had been battling cancer for over a year as General Conference in April 1985 was approaching. He literally got up from his sickbed to go and give his conference talk, which was titled: “The Purifying Power of Gethsemane”.  He opened the talk with this statement:  “I feel, and the Spirit seems to accord, that the most important doctrine I can declare, and the most powerful testimony I can bear, is of the atoning sacrifice of the Lord Jesus Christ.”
Elder McConkie passed away on April 19th, less than two weeks after giving this talk. I want to share with you his final testimony.

Video: “The Purifying Power of Gethsemane”, start at 14:00.

It’s my prayer that we will learn of Jesus Christ and that we will follow him, that we will love him more fully and feel his love for us more deeply. As we embark on this 12 Month Walk with Christ, I pray that we will make it a 365 Day Walk with Christ, or a 52 Week 24/7 Walk with Christ. That we will always remember him and keep his commandments as we have covenanted to do, that we may always have his Spirit to be with us. I express my love for him and my gratitude for all that he has done for me and for you.
  
Sources:
James E. Ray, “The Secret of Our Survival,” Guideposts, January 1996, 10-13 – shared by Chieko N. Okazaki in Stars: Reflections on Christmas
lds.org Media Library: The Wise Men Seek Jesus
Lighten Up! Finding Real Joy in Life by Chieko N. Okazaki, Chapter 14: Seeking the Light of Christ
Ensign, June 1985, “Elder Bruce R. McConkie: Preacher of Righteousness

Ensign, April 1985, “The Purifying Power of Gethsemane” by Elder Bruce R. McConkie

Senior Couples

January 5, 2015, was our monthly Family Home Evening with the senior couples in our mission and the Asia North Area Office. This time the area office had put together a service project for an orphanage just across the street, so we brought clothing and donations and presented them to the officers of the orphanage at dinner.

The potluck was wonderful as usual -- I'd brought a pumpkin pie and a banana cream pie, and people just raved about them, especially the banana cream. I realized most of these senior couples have almost as hard a time getting American food as the young missionaries do. Shopping at the commissary is so easy and comfortable and I sometimes think I should be more adventurous. We were the first couple of months, but I have to confess -- I really don't much like Japanese food! We need to do more exploring, though, and get out of this comfort zone!

We stayed at the New Sanno Hotel again after FHE, along with the two other senior military relations missionary couples. It was fun to see the hotel decorated for the holidays, because we'd seen so little of that other than on the base.



Elder and Sister Slade at Zama Army Camp, Sister and Elder Thunell at Yokosuka Naval Base, and Bruce and me, Yokota AirBase.


And a cute display in the hotel lobby.


Here's the view from our room on the seventh floor. I still can't believe I'm in Tokyo!

The next morning we decided to venture out and visit the Imperial Gardens on the grounds of the Emperor's Palace. We're always proud of ourselves when we can follow directions and figure out how to navigate trains and subways, and this morning was no exception. We made it!



Yes, this palace is surrounded by a moat.


Bruce was impressed with this massive hinge.


Bruce and Elder Slade.


 Don't know, couldn't read the Japanese sign. But looks interesting, doesn't it?


More impressive architecture at the gate.



You can't tell very well, because it was such a gray day and the colors are washed out, but this tree really looked like army camouflage. Elder Slade must have thought so, too, he thinks we can't see him!



It was a surprise to see anything trying to bloom the first week of January, but these camellias were making a valiant attempt! I learned that the Japanese camellia is called "the rose of winter." We definitely want to go back to this park in the spring and see how that compares -- also to see all the azaleas blooming, there were lots!

Sister Thunnel, Sister Slade, and me.



Always so interesting to see the old, traditional architecture contrasting with the new and modern.




There was a fascinating bamboo grove, with different varieties of bamboo identified.




Elder Slade moved through the bamboo grove very quickly. He is a Vietnam vet, and as we were oohing and ahhing over the different varieties, he didn't want to have anything to do with it. He has no pleasant memories associated with bamboo. We didn't ask and he didn't elaborate, but kind of sobering.







I don't know that we've seen this much open space anywhere else in Japan!





Elder Thunnel, the Slades, and a friendly Japanese man who tried to show us around a bit -- his English was limited, as is our Japanese, but it was fun to try to understand each other!



We don't know what this building, above, is, but it looked interesting....


This was interesting, too, to find in the public restroom. After seeing only these "squat toilets" in several stalls, I was so relieved to find one traditional toilet, I had to take a picture of it!



Here's Bruce, looking back across the moat at the city.


We had a really enjoyable visit at these gardens and want to go back in the spring, I'm sure it's a very different place during different seasons throughout the year. We took the subway back to the Hiro-o Station near The New Sanno, and then guess where the Thunnels wanted to have lunch? McDonalds!!